What does a stripper do, and not do, at a party?

A stripper performs a short dance show to music, takes off one piece of clothing at a time and gets the group involved. What doesn't happen: sex or any other "extras". That's a hard rule. The performer decides how far the show goes, guests stick to the agreements, and anyone who crosses the line risks the show being stopped.

If you've never seen a strip act at a party, your picture of it has probably been shaped by films, strip clubs or stories online. A lot of that is nonsense. On international forums, for instance, you'll read that a stripper who comes to your home "often does more". On Stripspot that simply isn't the case. This article explains what you can expect, what falls outside the show and how to make sure everyone has a good night.

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What a stripper does

A strip act is a performance. The structure varies by performer, but broadly it looks like this:

• The performer arrives in an outfit or theme, for example as a police officer, firefighter, nurse or in elegant evening wear. For ideas, see music, themes and outfits.
• A dance show to music follows, with clothes coming off one piece at a time.
• The guest of honour gets involved, usually the bride or groom to be or the birthday person. They might sit on a chair in the middle of the room, for example.
• The audience joins in too, with a game, a dare or a moment in the spotlight. Our game ideas that always work give a good idea.
• In the Netherlands the show usually lasts around 15 minutes. After that the performance is over and the performer leaves.

Almost all performers do a fully nude act. How far a show normally goes is listed on each performer's profile. If you'd prefer something softer, you can always put that in the description of your request.

What a stripper doesn't do

There's no room for doubt here. A strip act booked through Stripspot comes with hard rules:

• No sex. Not even if someone asks for it or offers to pay extra.
• No extras. No "happy endings", no private show in another room, no arrangements outside the booked act.
• Nothing the performer doesn't want. Touching only happens if the performer invites it and it fits the show.

A strip act is entertainment for the whole group. Anyone looking for something else has come to the wrong place.

Rules for guests

A show is only fun if everyone sticks to the rules. As the organiser you're the point of contact, so share these rules with your group beforehand:

1. Follow the performer's lead. They set the pace, the interaction and who takes part.
2. No touching unless the performer invites it. Not even "as a joke".
3. No filming without permission. Agree beforehand what is and isn't allowed. Read the do's and don'ts for filming and photography.
4. Respect a no, from the performer and from guests who don't want to join in.
5. Keep it fun, not crude. A few drinks are part of it, but anyone who goes too far spoils it for everyone.

If guests don't stick to the rules, the performer may stop the show. Nobody wants that, so agree it clearly in advance. More on how to behave in etiquette and boundaries at a strip show.

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Age of the guests

A strip act is a show for adults. The minimum age for guests depends on the rules of the country where the performance takes place; usually it's 16. If younger guests are around, make sure they aren't present during the show. In doubt? Discuss it with the performer beforehand.

Does a stripper come alone?

Usually, yes. Some performers come with a driver, who waits outside or comes in briefly. If you choose a duo act, two performers arrive and do a show together. Ideally there's a spot where the performer can change; see the space preparation checklist and the choice between home or venue.

Can you customise the show?

Yes, within the performer's limits. In your request you can mention:

• which theme or outfit you're looking for;
• whether the act should be playful and funny or more sensual;
• whether you'd like a softer act, for example without full nudity;
• who should get the attention, and who definitely shouldn't.

After booking, you agree the details directly with the performer through the platform. Planning it as a surprise? Read our tips on booking a surprise stripper. If your partner has doubts, see a stripper at your bachelor party when your partner isn't keen. Looking for something that lasts all evening rather than a short show? Take a look at topless service.

How to arrange it

When you hire a stripper through Stripspot, you choose yourself from female strippers and male strippers who are actually available. Every profile shows the performer's style and their own reviews, so you know what to expect. Ready to book a stripper? Or want everything in one place first? Read the complete guide to hiring a stripper.

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